Friday Faves or Thoughts or Something

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One day I’ll come up with a clever title for my Friday posts. One day.

It’s been a long week and a short week all at once. I flew home on the red eye from Cali Monday night and jumped right back into things when I got home Tuesday morning. I’ve been dragging a bit all week, but I finally got a good night’s sleep last night (which I’m thanking my new spin bike for) and I feel almost back to normal. I’m not sure why I always take the red eye when it screws me up so much, but I can’t help it.

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Also, to get completely cheesy and cliche, I feel like a different person in California. I’ve never lived there, but when I’m  there, I feel like I’m home. I’m more relaxed and it isn’t just because I’m without my kids when I’m there, I swear. Every time I go, it gets harder to come back. I’m pretty sure a lot of it has to do with the flight attendant announcing our descent into Western New York and looking out of the window to see nothing but a frozen, snow-covered Lake Erie. No thanks.

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I’ve also fallen more and more in love with Disneyland. So much so that I wish we were traveling there this December instead of Walt Disney World. I’m going to go ahead and predict there will be a blog post about this at some point in the near future.

This weekend is going to be a lot of catching up on stuff around the house and with work. I also have a few posts to write up so I’m not going days between posts next week.

In the meantime, here are some of my favorite things this week:

Deadspin Tom Brady’s Balls: Because I am a 12 year old boy and I can’t help myself. All the laughs.
Runs With Pugs ran the Walt Disney World Marathon and recapped it.
These pleated skirts from Old Navy. So feminine and the perfect length for short people like me.
New rumors about The Walking Dead spin-off that pump me up from Nerdist News.
Annnnnd, the fact that I’m so pumped for Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt to start on Netflix.
Speaking of Netflix: What’s coming and going in February. HELLO HOUSE OF CARDS!

What are you loving this week? Leave a comment with something you’re excited about, a blog post you think is a must-read, or something you can’t get enough of! 

Post-Star Wars Half Marathon Weekend Thoughts

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A full recap of the inaugural runDisney Star Wars Half Marathon Weekend is coming, including my thoughts on the 10k and half as well as some more fun Disneyland posts, but I’m fresh off the red eye back from California and I’m not quite awake enough to plot those posts out just yet.

What I can say is what I learned from this weekend and how it’s going to change things going forward.

So what did I learn?

Not training properly for a race is stupid.


So obvious, right? Everyone knows that.

But they don’t. Or, they’re like me and they don’t listen. There are threads and threads on message boards where people are asking “I haven’t run more than X miles for Y race, will I be ok?”

Inevitably, and especially on runDisney-focused boards, people start trying to make the poster feel better. “It’s just for fun, don’t worry!” “You can do it! Just walk it!” “As long as you finish, it doesn’t matter!” “Pixie dust will get you through!”

And I get what they’re trying to say because I totally let myself fall into those excuses this weekend. I told myself it didn’t matter how long it took, as long as I finished. I agreed with everyone who kept saying to me “You’ve run two marathons, a half is nothing!” I went into denial and convinced myself it was a good idea to race not once, but twice, in one weekend with minimal training since I completed the Chicago Marathon in October.


Yes, my time doesn’t technically matter. I’m not out to win my age group or anything. But you know what does matter? Listening to your body. Putting in the effort and training to ensure a safe and productive race.

I got through Saturday’s 10k with minimal pain. I definitely had some soreness in my bad knee, but I laughed it off and went out Sunday determined to give it a shot and run as if I trained.


Two miles in, my knee was killing me. Tylenol, Biofreeze, stop to stretch, walk. I repeated the cycle over three hours and 13.1 miles.


After that, I decided to walk around Disneyland Resort for hours and hours for two days and then sit on 7 hours worth of plane rides.


I worked really hard to get my knee back to a place where it was strong enough to handle running again. And then I got lazy, made excuses, didn’t train properly, didn’t recover from workouts properly, and then decided to run a 10k/13.1 challenge and now I’m paying the price. I won’t be able to run on it for a few weeks. I’ll be spending time (and money) at the chiropractor again to do physical therapy. I’ll be on the spin bike, trying to keep up my cardio without putting extra stress on my knee. I’ll be starting from scratch all over again.

I feel like one of those Rob Lowe DirecTV ads.

“Hi, I’m smart Ashley and I trained for the Chicago Marathon.” “Hi, I’m not-so-smart Ashley and ran the runDisney Rebel Challenge without training.”

Don’t be like not-so-smart me. Train. And if you aren’t trained for a race, don’t run. Walking isn’t going to solve all of your problems. Defer. Sell a bib, if you can. Pick a race later in the year. Be smart. Listen to your body. Do the work required. Races are infinitely more fun when you’re trained. No medal or t-shirt is worth damaging your body for.

So for now, I go back to the basics. Rehabbing my knee, focusing on cross-training, flexibility, and cardio. In a few weeks, I’ll start rebuilding my running base and properly training for my next half in June and keeping a consistent baseline where I CAN comfortably and safely finish a half marathon on a whim.

I would be lying if I said it wasn’t fun this weekend. I had a blast, despite the extreme pain, thanks to two great friends who stuck by me on the courses. Our times weren’t horrible. They were my worst times to date, sure, but we were never in danger of not finishing on time.

Star Wars Half Marathon

I don’t want to say I regret running the races, but I do regret not training for them and the pain I’ve caused myself.

It’s a mistake I hope to never make again.

State of the Blog 2015 or How I’m Becoming Obnoxious

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I know. I know, guys. It’s been slower than usual around here lately.

It’s on purpose, I swear.

I am really enjoying the idea that I don’t have to post every day because I’m concentrating on posting more quality content over quantity. I’ve taken an enormous pressure off of my plate by not obsessing over pageviews and numbers and pushing so-so content just so I have a post up for you every day. Ironically, since I’ve started posting less over the last month or two, you’ve been visiting more. It just proves my hunch was right and my step back was a smart move. Funny how that works.

I’ve received a few emails and messages since I redesigned the site and started writing more about style, especially on Instagram and Facebook. There are some people that aren’t happy with the new direction the site is taking. All I can say to that is “sorry.” But, honestly? I’m not sorry.


I’m loving my new site design. I’m loving writing more about style and travel and running because those are things that make me happy. I was told that I’m turning into “one of those obnoxious fashion blogger people.” That’s a real quote from a Facebook message I got earlier this week, y’all.

You’re so adorable, Internet. Adorbs, even.

To those that are no longer into what this site has become, I sincerely thank you for your readership over the past few years. I hope you’ll still find some of my older posts helpful and I hope you can find another site that has more of what you’re looking for.

For those that are going to stick around, I promise it’ll be worth it. The year has just started and I already feel like I’m accomplishing so much. Most of it is behind-the-scenes, but it will start to show itself more and more as the year goes on. I am so excited for 2015 and all it has to offer.

I may not be posting everyday or even every other day, but I’m here and working on some great content and I would love for you to come along for the ride.

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